Wednesday, April 24, 2013

When It Is Good To Be "Selfish"

We were taught that being "selfish" is a bad thing and when you take the American meaning of the word----"Caring supremely or unduly for one's self; regarding one's own comfort, advantage, etc., in disregard, or at the expense, of those of others"--- it is.

But Abraham tells us to be "as selfish as a cat". 

Well, the reason is that Abraham is talking about a different definition for the word. 

The author Elizabeth Gilbert explains this very well.  She says we just need another definition for the word like they have in the Mandarin Chinese language where there are two words for 'selfish'.
 
One is used with mean-spirited, malicious intent.  Similar to the meaning that we think of in America when we use the word selfish".

The other meaning is about a profound connection to Spirit.  

When you strive to be this kind of "selfish", not only will your own life improve, but you will be more giving to others in all areas, because from this connection to Source, your potential for abundance is unlimited.
 
This is a very good way to be "selfish" and you should strive toward it.
 
I have found that when people are very connected with Source and living in alignment with Universal Laws, they will tend to be even more giving to others. 
 
They just know that it all begins with themselves.
 
Start with raising your own vibration and creating your own perfect life and then you will see how much better you can help improve other people's lives.
 
Kathy
 
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8 comments:

  1. Beautiful! We do need 2 different meanings for the word. Loved this post. I shared it on twitter and facebook.

    Thank you.

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  2. Your words made me smile today. I tell people that being selfish is the most generous action one can choose to take. Seriously! Want to change the world into a better place? Practice conscious selfishness.

    :~)

    So glad I was right underneath you on today's Ultimate Blog Challenge facebook group!

    Hugs & Happy Blog Challenge Month!

    Julie Jordan Scott
    My UBC post today is about finding poetry everywhere... literally AND metaphorically.

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    1. Thanks Julie! I am glad you were "right under me", too.

      :-)

      Kathy

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  3. Hi Kathy!

    Another great post. I love this: selfish being a "profound connection to Spirit." I've written several posts on the need to be selfish in the way that you're describing. I believe that I really can't take care of anybody else until I start taking care of myself first. Not being selfish in that way leads to burnout, & then you're of no use to anybody, including yourself.

    Cheers!

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    1. That is exactly right. But when you take care of yourself and improve your own life to how you want it, you have more of everything to give to others, too.

      It really is the "workable" way to live.

      :-)

      Kathy

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  4. wonderful Post- the headline caught my eye as I grew up being told not to be selfish and always think of others first- i know now as you say there are 2 very different meanings

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  5. I'm finally learning that saying no to something I don't want to do is not me being selfish, it's me doing what is right for me!

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