The one underlying thing that keeps most people from changing enough to actually attract what it is that they are wanting in their life is lack of self awareness.
But don't beat yourself up about it.
We all suffer from lack of self awareness in some field or another, otherwise, we'd be, do and have everything we want.
And, by the way, talking endlessly about your problems is NOT an example of self awareness.
As a matter of fact, it is generally just the opposite.
If you don't believe me, look at these examples:
Hoarders have gotten a lot of attention on TV lately and have you seen the number of hoarders who when asked what they see they say something like "well, it can be tidied up a bit."
OMG! Tidied up! It is a big pile of dusty, moldy, junk and trash! You see, they are not AWARE of how it really is when they look right at it or talk about it to others.
Or the very overweight person who says "I just can't lose weight and I hardly eat anything." When everyone else watches as they constantly shovel food in their mouths.
Or the drama queen (or king) who has to tell and re-tell every negative event from their whole
day over and over again in great detail and yet wonders why their life is so bad.
Or the person who wastefully spends all their money, has nothing really to show for it and yet, has no idea why they can't pay their bills.
Those are all extreme examples, I admit, (and many of these people need extreme help) but we all do this to some degree.
You see, self awareness is more than just "head knowledge". It is when you "KNOW".
When you realize something. You have an "ah-ha" moment.
Like I said, if we didn't, we'd all be, do and have all we want right now.
How will you know when you've increased your own self awareness on some area?
You will know because things become easy to improve.
So, how do we become more self aware.
One way is by raising your dominant vibration.
As you raise in vibration, naturally, your awareness will also raise.
By doing all the things I mention in these posts and in my daily email coaching, you will begin the shift upwards.
And if you still need help, you may have to get the help of someone outside of you who can see that which you cannot.
I suggest you use an objective professional and not a friend or relative as those people are too close and generally will only cause upset. Also, if you use a non-professional, you run the risk of just having more of their issues projected into your own situation which will help neither of you.
It is SO worth doing.
You can begin to create the life you always wanted.
Kathy Hadley
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So true. We won't change if we don't know and therefore the need for the inner inquiry. Also need the willingness to see and change. But it is worth it. Thank you for the reminder.
ReplyDeleteIt is SO very worth it.
DeleteAnd it isn't really that difficult to do when you do it a little at a time.
Thanks for commenting.
:-)
Kathy
Hi Kathy!
ReplyDeleteIt's really important, IMO, to say yes to self-awareness. I'm sure (well, pretty sure) that most people who are broke or obese know how they got there; they just either don't want to change, don't know how to change or there are underlying issues they just don't want to deal with. Thanks for the reminder that change always begins with us.
Cheers!
Shelli,
DeleteYou would think so and if you asked them, yes, they want to change. However, most people don't know how they keep getting what they are getting really and that is where raising self awareness comes in.
It is the same for everyone just generally in smaller ways, day to day.
:-)
Thanks for commenting.
Kathy
http://kathyhadleylifecoach.com
Thanks for the idea. It's definitely a good idea and we all need a reminder like this some time!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Ellen, for commenting.
DeleteKathy
Thanks, Ellen, for commenting.
DeleteKathy
This is a good lesson Kathy. I include lessons on self awareness for my young clients. The younger we help them learn how to become self aware, the better their chances for success in life.
ReplyDeleteJulia,
DeleteThat is so true.
:-)
Kathy
"And, by the way, talking endlessly about your problems is NOT an example of self awareness."
ReplyDeleteLove your post and this sentence was my favorite. It gave me a giggle. It is so true and so funny at the same time for how much time most of us spend lamenting on our problems.
Thanks for your beautiful voice.
Dina Dove
Dear Dina,
DeleteI'm glad you liked it and that it "gave you a giggle".
Even though it may seem funny, it is actually something I've found some clients believe...... they will say "I'm aware of my problems, I talk about them all the time."
Which means they are NOT aware of the real issue and yet are very aware of the results they keep getting.
Once you are aware of something unwanted, for real, the first thing you do is change it!
:-)
Thanks for commenting,
Kathy
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