Tuesday, April 16, 2013

Are You Creating Your Life Deliberately or By Default?

I have been asked probably thousands of times the same question: "How can I get Law of Attraction
to work for me?"

The answer from me and everyone else who understands Universal Laws is this:

"Law of Attraction is constantly working every moment of every day bringing you more of that which you but your dominant attention on. You attract what matches your vibration and you are doing it all the time.

You don't have to MAKE IT WORKS.  It just is working."

 The reason that question keeps getting asked is because the answer is not satisfying to the majority of people.

People want to know that there is something that they can "turn on" to get Law of Attraction (LOA) to work for them for what they want.

And that is just not how it works.

LOA is working 24/7 non-stop all the time for everyone.

The real question for people could be phrased more like this: "What do I need to do, if anything, to apply LOA deliberately so that I get what I want and not more of what I don't want".

That is what I've been helping people first to realize and then to apply in their own lives with great success.

There are thousands of books, websites, coaches, audios and videos about all of this already.

Then why would ANYONE still be coming to me (or anyone else) for help.

Because they have not yet realized that they can either put their attention on what is wanted or they can unknowingly keep putting their attention on the worries, upsets, cares and woes of what they don't want and keep getting more of that.

LOA works perfectly all the time. You keep lamenting something that is wrong and you will, sure enough, keep getting more of it.

I find those who seem to think they know the most on this journey of life the most challenging ones to get to see that THEY are the ones that keep putting their own attention and emotion on unwanted things and thus getting more of it.


I could go on and on about that, however, that's not my style. My goal is to get on with it. Give people something they can do right now to get positive results.

First, realize now, right now, that YOU and ONLY YOU are the ONLY person who is now, has ever or will ever be the creator of YOUR life.


That should be a very freeing realization because if YOU are the only person who is in charge of YOU, then YOU only have to work on YOU in order to get what you want.

Second, take a real good look at your day to day activities.

Listen folks, that is where all this creation is happening.

Yes, sitting down to meditate or going to seminars and reading books are all great, but the MAIN amount of creation for wanted and unwanted things that are happening in YOUR life is in the moment by moment thoughts, emotions and habits you are in.

Those are the things you are getting more of.

It is that simple.

I use the analogy of "the tail wagging the dog". Backwards, yes, but that is what most people are unknowingly doing.

You wait until something apparently "bad" happens and then you REACT to it.

Stop right then. Ask yourself, would I be doing this action or thinking this thought IF my life was only filled with what is wanted.

The answer is probably NO!

It can even appear that what you are doing is a "good" thing. But be aware.

For example:

You could have been meditating all last night for perfect interactions at work. You arrive at work the next morning and "all hell as broken loose".

So you decide that you are going to find an inspirational quote and send it out to all the staff because that will help everyone get along better.

Now, ask yourself, would you have sent out an inspirational quote to all the staff for them all to get along better if they were indeed getting along.


If you deliberately are creating your life and thus pre-paving and believing for the wanted you have launched out into the Universe, then if you did indeed come into work and everyone else was upset, it would NOT affect you. You would be in a different vibrational realm then all of them.

This is where allowing comes in.

If on the other hand, you do let it affect you vibrationally, then you are like all the billions of people on the planet who are wondering...

"How do I get Law of Attraction to work for me?"

The steps of applying Law of Attraction deliberately toward wanted things are simple and spelled out in my daily emails and my downloadable trainings.

Here they are again, in brief:

Ask - you simply ask for what you want without contradicting it with thoughts of lack, limitation or unworthiness.

It is Given - This is not YOUR work. The Universe always answers your vibrational requests, it matches them perfectly constantly.

Receive - Allow the good to come to you. This is where allowing comes in from the above example. You stay focused on your want and feel the feelings of already having it so that you are a vibrational match to what is wanted regardless of what is happening around you.

That's IT!!

Now, find joy. Moment by moment ways to appreciate what you already have. Desire more things that you can believe that you can have now.


"You never get it wrong and you will never get it done."

My wish for all of you is that you deliberately create your most perfect life in each moment.

Kathy Hadley

If you want more help on how to have a great life, sign up for my free daily email coaching at

If you want some more immediate help, get my Simple Law of Attraction Kit that comes with a short e-book and audio.  I also highly recommend the Advanced Class as it contains some of the key things I use with my coaching clients.


  1. Many people say the Law Of Attraction doesn't work for them. Another part of the problem is, the are unaware of their subconscious thoughts, and their thoughts while asleep. We're only in our conscious mind about 10 percent of the day! It's hard to over-write the programming in your brain. I make recordings to listen to to get your mind set as you go to sleep.

    1. Lianda,

      Exactly! After spending many years trying to remove, release or overwrite the unconscious stuff, I've found a combination of techniques that have worked for me and my clients. The results are fast and pretty amazing. :-)

      Thanks for commenting.


  2. I'm learning so much from your blog - you have amazing content! So glad found you through UBC! Enjoying this journey!

    1. MelAnn,

      I am so glad that this is helping you. I'm loving the UBC and all the people I'm helping and finding, too.



  3. I totally believe that the LOA works - I'm glad to report that I have experienced it powerfully in my life.

    1. Corinne,

      I'm glad that you have learned how to align with the Law of Attraction to get desired results.

      LOA is always working. That is the point. ;-)