Are You Glad It Is Over Or Did You Develop A Great New Habit?

Thoughts lead on to purposes; purposes go forth in action; actions form habits; habits decide character; and character fixes our destiny.
~ Tyron Edwards

Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny. ~
~ Unknown

Habits are to the soul what the veins and arteries are to the blood, the courses in which it moves 
~ Horace Bushnell

Today is the last day of the April 2013 edition of the (UBC) Ultimate Blog Challenge (of which I had the joy and pleasure of being involved).

In thinking about it, there are many, many thoughts, lessons and realizations that I could ponder here, but the one that keeps coming to mind is the one that comes to my mind many, many times in my life when I and many other people experience what is basically the same thing, yet get totally different results, reactions and feelings about it.

This is no different.

For me, being part of the UBC was a great chance to get into a new habit of blogging daily.

In doing so, I actually DID get into the habit of blogging and now that it is a habit, I want to continue it.

Blogging daily has many physical Universe advantages:  it increases your SEO and increases your audience which in turn should increase your leads and possibly clients.

It also increases your collaborations with others and generally is very good for your business on a practical level.

But it is SO much more than that on a mental, emotional and spiritual level.

Any time you improve on one area of your life, that improved vibration carries over and improves all other areas of your life, even if just a little bit.

In addition, everything is ENERGY and as you flow it out---in posting on the blog, sharing it and commenting on other blogs---you allow for that much more to flow into you.

Of course, all of the positive that I've experienced from this is because it actually RAISED my vibration and made me happy to do it.

As I said earlier, it has always amazed me that several people can experience relatively the same thing and get different results.  Well, that is the point.  Not everyone who has participated in this challenge did so with the same thoughts and vibration as myself.

Some are actually relieved it is over. 

They have no intention of continuing.

They did not have the intention or purpose of having this create a more positive habit for themselves.

Some may even still be confused and not really even comprehend why it is they even bothered as it did nothing for them.

You see!

Same experience, different results, reactions and feelings.

And all of that is the direct result of where they are VIBRATIONALLY right now and what it is that they are attracting.

If you participated in the UBC or not, you can learn a lesson from this.  If life is what you want, keep doing what you are doing.

If it is not, this is yet another example of a time to look at things and see how they are to see how you want them to improve and start moving in that direction.

How do you do it?

I wrote for 30 days in this blog to help you with that.  ;-)  Go back and read or re-read some of those posts.  ( check out below for some other things to help you.)

As for me, I plan to continue blogging.

This UBC has really increased my creative flows and I have met some great people, learned a lot of great things, expanded both my business and my awareness, yet again and am thrilled to have been (and to remain) a part of it.

Thank you all.  Thank you especially to Michelle Shaeffer for making this all possible.

Kathy Hadley

P.S.  See you tomorrow.  :-)

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You've Heard You Are Like The Five People You Are Most With - If You Are Not Where You Want To Be - It Is About Time To Change Them

You are the average of the five people who take up the most of your daily attention.

Either in person, reading their books, watching their videos, listening to their audios, etc.

If you want to have a better life, then make a list of all the traits and things you want to be, do and have and then compare that lists to what those 5 people are, do and have.

If they do not match, then find people who do match and spend more time giving attention to them.


That seems so very simple but people just don't get it.

Here are some examples:

If you are in a relationship that you want to grow and nurture, it is not a good idea to spend a lot of your time and attention on people who have bad relationships or are constantly complaining about their relationships.

If you want more money, you don't want to spend time with people who have a poverty consciousness or are always having money troubles.

If you want good health, you don't want to be in groups that are constantly talking about their unwanted condition.

If you are single and want to be married, hang out with happy married people or read books about them. 

If you are happy with your job (or want to be) don't spend time with people who constantly complain about theirs.

You want to deliberately put your dominant attention on that which you are wanting.

But here is the rub.

The reason those other people are in your life is because by the Law of Attraction!

YOU attracted them because they currently MATCH your dominant vibration.

Most likely, you did it like most people, unknowingly and by default, so don't beat yourself up about it.

Just notice where you are and start to make a change.

As you first start shifting this attention, it will feel a bit uncomfortable.

This is when it is important to use some of the other tools I have written about in this blog and in my daily email coaching.

Then, as you shift your attention and thus your vibration, allow those others to fade harmoniously away or they might see your positive new life and decide to come along for the ride.  

However, don't try to change them or make them come along.

You can only work on yourself and allow all others to do the same if you really want to attract the life of your dreams.

Kathy Hadley

 

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Make Good News Travel Fast

There is an old saying, "Bad news travels fast."

 

And I've seen that to be true in life.  I bet you have, too.

 

People you almost never hear from will contact you to tell you bad news.

 

They never call to tell you some exciting thing like someone got a new job or they just remodeled the house.  No, that would be "bragging".  (Which I'm totally OK with and encourage from the Highest Spiritual sense.)

 

However, there is a shift going on and I've noticed it mostly with entrepreneurs.......

 

People are spreading more positive!!!

 

As people come to know about and really apply the Universal Laws, they realize that they are "adding to" whatever they put their attention on and that over time they will not only attract less "bad news" but that they will also attract more good, if they do this.

 

So, those people are actually spreading only Good News!

 

To begin with, this is quite a change to those around them because even unknowingly, people DO notice when you stand out from everyone by being more positive in every day life even in subtle ways.

 

This is great.

 

As more and more people are learning and applying Universal Laws, more people are "adding to" the improved condition on earth.

 

And that is what we were all supposed to be doing all along.

 

No wonder it says in the Bible:

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Philippians 4:8

 

Kathy Hadley

 

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Out Of Our Greatest Pain Can Come Our Greatest Growth

Many times our greatest growth has come after our greatest pain.

If you have lost a loved one, you know what I mean.

If you have had any loss, you know what I mean.

We search to fill that emptiness inside.

I can attest to the Good News that it CAN be done and you WILL survive.

You can even come out stronger on the other end and AMAZINGLY enough, you will even feel happy, joyful and other high emotions, again.

You think in that moment of sadness that it will never happen, but it can and it will.

My life is so wonderful now that I almost never think of what has come before.

It is all about this moment and creating my perfect life now.

However, since so many of my coaching clients are going through or have gone through things that they feel keep them from achieving all they want, I will report, that I've been through a lot myself.

I will not go into all of it here as it is not necessary.

Just know, that I have gone through a lot and yet am where I am now.

You can, too.

It is actually very simple.

And just like when you learned to ride a bike or drive a car, it gets easier the more you practice.

Until eventually, you will live the life of your dreams in a state of high vibration and create all that you are wanting pretty much on auto-pilot. 

Just like how you now ride a bike and drive a car without even thinking about it.

Get started now. 

It helps when you have a road map and specific things to do to get you there and that is where help from someone who has "been there, done that" comes in.

If you are ready to create your own life the way you want, let me know.

Kathy

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DECLARE This Day For Yourself - Today Can Be YOUR Day!

Join in and DECLARE this today for yourself.
 
Today can be YOUR day!

Focus your thoughts like a laser beam toward what you want and do not allow any contrary thoughts to enter in.

Stay in the "feeling place" of already having what you are wanting and all Universal Forces will align to match that vibration and bring it to you.

Every so often I have a LOVE FEST day or a Creation Day or a Day like today.

It is the ENERGY that I feel in the world and want people to tap into it.

I usually announce them on my FACEBOOK page so make sure to LIKE the page here:
http://facebook.com/kathyhadleylifecoach.

Of course, you can do this at any moment of time for yourself.  I've just found that when the ENERGY is high Universally, it makes it easier.


Kathy Hadley

 

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Are You Really Ready For A Better Life???

Habits, habits, habits. 

We are all stuck in habits. 

 

Even the habits that keep us in the life we

DO NOT want. 

These habits of talking, thinking and feeling unwanted emotions are unconscious to us. 

In my circle of friends, I am rarely in situations where people complain or have anything negative as a topic of conversation. 

However, once in a while, I am attending some event where there are people who only speak of such negative things.   If you watch any television, that is basically all you see.

It goes back to the Hee Haw post ---"if it weren't for bad luck, I'd have no luck at all."----it would seem with these people. 

I can see ways that I could help them but I generally don't offer help or advice directly to someone unless they ask for it because otherwise, they just get annoyed. 

However, knowing I am a Life Coach, many people, even in social settings DO ask me for help. 

And I can immediately tell if they are actually READY for a solution and here is how: 

They will actually see how this may work for them AND they DO it! 

However, almost every time in this type of situation, upon receiving my suggestions, the person will tell me how they have tried that or done this and indeed, it did not work. 

 

Or they know people who have done it and it doesn't work. 

 

These are the people who are NOT ready for a solution no matter what they say or no matter how miserable their life is. 

Argue for your limitations, and you get to keep them.  

You certainly CAN change your life and it can start right now. 

The first step is to decide that you really want a solution and will do something different starting now to make a change. 

It is insanity to keep doing the same things and expect different results.

 

Kathy Hadley

 

If you want more help on how to have a great life, sign up for my free daily email coaching at
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When It Is Good To Be "Selfish"

We were taught that being "selfish" is a bad thing and when you take the American meaning of the word----"Caring supremely or unduly for one's self; regarding one's own comfort, advantage, etc., in disregard, or at the expense, of those of others"--- it is.

But Abraham tells us to be "as selfish as a cat". 

Well, the reason is that Abraham is talking about a different definition for the word. 

The author Elizabeth Gilbert explains this very well.  She says we just need another definition for the word like they have in the Mandarin Chinese language where there are two words for 'selfish'.

 

One is used with mean-spirited, malicious intent.  Similar to the meaning that we think of in America when we use the word selfish".

The other meaning is about a profound connection to Spirit.  

When you strive to be this kind of "selfish", not only will your own life improve, but you will be more giving to others in all areas, because from this connection to Source, your potential for abundance is unlimited.

 

This is a very good way to be "selfish" and you should strive toward it.

 

I have found that when people are very connected with Source and living in alignment with Universal Laws, they will tend to be even more giving to others. 

 

They just know that it all begins with themselves.

 

Start with raising your own vibration and creating your own perfect life and then you will see how much better you can help improve other people's lives.

 

Kathy

 

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If You Could Change One Thing In Your Life -- Right Now -- What Would You Change?

If you could change one thing in your life -- right now -- what would you change?

 

For Tina in New York it was stress at work.  

 

In her own words:

 

One of the habitual thoughts I had was I never had enough time to get any of my paperwork done at work....I gotta tell you that this is the first week in a long time that I actually got everything done and I'm actually ahead of my work schedule so it was fantastic!

This is probably not the first time you've thought about your own answer.

 

So what's keeping you from making the change?

Have you considered that there's only ONE thing you really need to do and everything else would fall in line and you'd see the change take place.

It sounds too simple, but that ONE thing you need to change is - your thinking!

As James Allen writes in As A Man Thinketh, "Let a person radically alter his thoughts, and he will be astonished at the rapid transformation it will effect in the material conditions of his life."

 

Kathy Hadley

 

If you want more help on how to have a great life, sign up for my free daily email coaching at
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If you want some more immediate help, get my Simple Law of Attraction Kit that comes with a short e-book and audio.  I also highly recommend the Advanced Class as it contains some of the key things I use with my coaching clients.
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Do I Want MORE of THAT?!

Ask yourself, "Do I want more of that?" 

What you talk about, think about and look at most of the time is what you are telling the Universe "I want more of that."

Nothing is either good or bad for the Law of Attraction, it simply obeys you. The Universe just gives you more of it as it just matches where you put your attention most of the time.

Pay attention:  If you watch the bad news, ask yourself, "Do I want more of THAT?!"

If not, put your attention on something you do want more of.

If you often tell people that you are (sad, depressed, upset, mad, worried, etc.) ask yourself

"Do I want more of THAT?!"

If you think people are mean to you and that you always have bad things happen stop and ask yourself,

"Do I want more of THAT?!"

If you criticize yourself, ask yourself,

"Do I want more of THAT?!"

I think you get the point.

Before long, you will notice where you are putting your attention and it will become a new
habit to put your attention mostly on what you REALLY DO WANT MORE OF!

Then, you will really see your life improve.

Kathy Hadley

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Go From Negative To Positive - Change Your Attitude With Gratitude

Most people are not even aware of how much negative they watch, listen to and talk about every day. 

Do you have to get all the details of the negative news to tell the story over & over to everyone? 

If so you are creating more negative in your own life. 

Turn off the news.

 

Tell a better story. Repeat only good news.

 

Attract more good into your life by doing so. 

Today, really pay attention to what you are talking about.   

 

Write it down.

If it is about death, accidents, murders, how bad the economy is, how bad the government is, how we need to be praying for this negative thing or that negative thing so that it is better, then STOP IT! 

Don't talk about bad economy.  Pray, meditate, think and talk about abundance.

 

Don't talk about accidents and murders.  Pray, meditate, think and talk about safety.

 

Don't talk about (insert subject that you don't want here).

 

Pray, meditate, think and talk about (insert subject you DO WANT here.) 

 

Get the drift?! 

 

You really have to change were you are putting your attention on all subjects

repeatedly daily if you want the better life you are working toward.

 

A great way to re-focus your attention is to get into the habit of looking around and

really feeling gratitude for what you have right now that you ARE grateful for.

 

Gratitude is a very high vibration emotion and the more you do it, the more you will improve your life.  

 

But you have to really feel the feeling of gratitude and depending on how much negative you've been focused on, you may have to do this a lot to shift the pattern to better.

 

Once you shift it and keep it going, your life will get better and better and better. 

 

Kathy Hadley

If you want more help on how to have a great life, sign up for my free daily email coaching at
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If you want some more immediate help, get my Simple Law of Attraction Kit that comes with a short e-book and audio.  I also highly recommend the Advanced Class as it contains some of the key things I use with my coaching clients.
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Self Awareness - Your Pathway To A Better Life

The one underlying thing that keeps most people from changing enough to actually attract what it is that they are wanting in their life is lack of self awareness.

But don't beat yourself up about it.

We all suffer from lack of self awareness in some field or another, otherwise, we'd be, do and have everything we want.

 

And, by the way, talking endlessly about your problems is NOT an example of self awareness. 

 

As a matter of fact, it is generally just the opposite.

 

If you don't believe me, look at these examples:

Hoarders have gotten a lot of attention on TV lately and have you seen the number of hoarders who when asked what they see they say something like "well, it can be tidied up a bit."

OMG!  Tidied up! It is a big pile of dusty, moldy, junk and trash!  You see, they are not AWARE of how it really is when they look right at it or talk about it to others.

Or the very overweight person who says "I just can't lose weight and I hardly eat anything." When everyone else watches as they constantly shovel food in their mouths.

Or the drama queen (or king) who has to tell and re-tell every negative event from their whole

day over and over again in great detail and yet wonders why their life is so bad.

Or the person who wastefully spends all their money, has nothing really to show for it and yet, has no idea why they can't pay their bills. 

Those are all extreme examples, I admit, (and many of these people need extreme help) but we all do this to some degree.

 

You see, self awareness is more than just "head knowledge".  It is when you "KNOW".

 

When you realize something.  You have an "ah-ha" moment. 

Like I said, if we didn't, we'd all be, do and have all we want right now.

 

How will you know when you've increased your own self awareness on some area?

 

You will know because things become easy to improve.

So, how do we become more self aware.

 

One way is by raising your dominant vibration.

As you raise in vibration, naturally, your awareness will also raise. 

 

By doing all the things I mention in these posts and in my daily email coaching, you will begin the shift upwards.

 

And if you still need help, you may have to get the help of someone outside of you who can see that which you cannot.

 

I suggest you use an objective professional and not a friend or relative as those people are too close and generally will only cause upset.  Also, if you use a non-professional, you run the risk of just having more of their issues projected into your own situation which will help neither of you.

Start with the simple things I've gone over here and in the daily email coaching.

It is SO worth doing.

You can begin to create the life you always wanted.

Kathy Hadley

If you want more help on how to have a great life, sign up for my free daily email coaching at
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Stop The Gloom, Despair And Agony Story Telling of Your Life

If you are old enough, you might remember the variety show, "Hee Haw". 

I thought of that show recently when observing some people apparently talking about "good" things in life.  I say "apparently" because for every one good thing they had to say they added on several problems and negatives that they have going on. 
 

 

 

The reason it made me think of "Hee Haw" was because there was a comedy skit in the show where these farm hands started by singing a song that went like this: 

"Gloom, despair and agony on me.  Deep dark depression, excessive misery.  If it weren't for bad luck, I'd have no luck at all.  Gloom, despair and agony on me."   (Play the video to hear it.)

Then one guy would start to tell a story to the other guys that was supposed to be a good story but it always contained a lot of problems and negatives.  Then they would end the skit singing that same song again.  This was comedy at the time. 

However, it isn't very comical when you are creating everything in your life based on the continual stories you tell to everyone about every issue, problem and situation that comes up in your life that is unwanted. 

 

               THAT IS HOW YOU KEEP GETTING MORE UNWANTED THINGS! 

So, although this may be funny when watching a show, it is NOT funny manifesting problems in your life.

First, become aware of what you spend most of your time talking about.

Then, STOP the doom, gloom, everything goes wrong, drama, drama, drama story telling in your life.  

If you really DO NOT have anything good to say, say nothing or better yet, find good things to talk about.

 

Use some of the tips from my previous posts to help you.

 

Kathy Hadley

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It Is All Your Perception - Change Your Mind, Change Your World

Many years ago, a large American shoe company sent two sales representatives out to different parts of the Australian outback to see if they could drum up some business among the Aborigines.

Some time later, the company received telegrams from both agents.

The first said, "No business here . . . natives don't wear shoes."

The second one said, "Great opportunity here . . . natives don't wear shoes!"

This story illustrates how it is all perception.

Given the exact same "fact", the two salesmen had totally different perceptions, opinions and thus reactions.

This is exactly what happens with us all the time.

We take what is the fact of the matter and then we determine our opinion of it.

Nothing really has a meaning to us until we give it one. 

Then we live our lives based on the meaning that WE gave it!

Therefore, why not give things the best meaning that we can?

Change your perception, change your life.

We all know these type of stories and quotes and they ring true to us when we read or hear them, but how can it really have a measurable positive impact on our life.

One simple step you can do is to write down everyday perceptions you have about yourself, your situation or anything.

Now write down how you can think differently about them and actively think of it differently, better, more in alignment with what you want.

For example:  I often have people who want more money tell me that they can't make more money in what they are doing.  If that is you, write that down and then write down how you could have more money.  

Like.................

I could get a bonus.  I could get more clients.  I could get a refund from something I don't know about.  Some one could just give me money.  I could find some money.  I might win some money.  I could do some fun task for someone and earn some extra money.  I could sell something I don't use any longer for some money.

Do this consistently every day for a month.

I think once you do this, you will see a positive change.

See what happens and come back and let me know. 

Kathy Hadley

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What Is All This Talk About Attaining a Higher Vibration?

Have you heard people talking about attaining a higher vibration?

Are you unsure what that means or why it's important to you?

In this article I am going to address both questions so that you will have a clearer understanding and hopefully want to attain it for yourself and your life.

We all vibrate energetically at a particular frequency.

The lower the frequency, the denser your energy, and the heavier your problems seem.

Here you may experience pain and discomfort in your physical body and experience heavy emotions and mental confusion.

Psychically, your energy is darker. You need to exert a great deal of effort to accomplish your goals. Overall, your life takes on a negative quality.

The higher the frequency of your energy or vibration, the lighter you feel in your physical, emotional, and mental bodies. You experience greater personal power, clarity, peace, love, and joy. You have little, if any, discomfort or pain in your physical body, and your emotions are easily dealt with. Your energy is literally full of light! Your life flows with synchronicity, and you manifest what you desire with ease. Overall, your life takes on a positive quality.

Being in a higher vibration is going to become more and more important to you and the rest of the world as we experience greater awareness of the polarities between the lower and higher vibrations. We will begin to perceive greater separation between the "dark" and the "light" almost as if we live in two worlds at once. We will need to consciously choose between the dark and the light or the higher and the lower vibrations.

Despair and desperation due to challenges will consume those vibrating at a lower frequency. Know that help is available from those vibrating at the higher frequency. The lower and denser energies will naturally want to rise when around the higher and lighter energies.

However, this process will feel very uncomfortable for people who carry the lower energies and people who carry the higher energies for a while. It is important for people who carry a higher vibration to maintain it and not lower it no matter how uncomfortable it feels. Those people resonating at a higher vibration will only be able to maintain it as long as they don't succumb to the pull of the lower vibration. That pull will come in the form of old programs and patterns of needing approval or of wanting to "fit in."

When you choose to be in a higher vibration, you are an example.

Choosing the light of a higher vibration requires a firm commitment to it even when it feels as though you no longer fit in.

You won't receive approval or fit in any longer because you WILL stand out from those with a lower vibration just as a tiny light in the midst of a dark room stands out.

Understand that those with the lower vibration have the potential to raise their frequency.

Remember that you will be able to find people who resonate at a higher vibration where you will have the support you need to keep your light shining bright.

Guest post by Pamela Dussault

Kathy Hadley

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Are You Creating Your Life Deliberately or By Default?

I have been asked probably thousands of times the same question: "How can I get Law of Attraction
to work for me?"

The answer from me and everyone else who understands Universal Laws is this:

"Law of Attraction is constantly working every moment of every day bringing you more of that which you but your dominant attention on. You attract what matches your vibration and you are doing it all the time.

You don't have to MAKE IT WORKS.  It just is working."

 The reason that question keeps getting asked is because the answer is not satisfying to the majority of people.

People want to know that there is something that they can "turn on" to get Law of Attraction (LOA) to work for them for what they want.

And that is just not how it works.

LOA is working 24/7 non-stop all the time for everyone.

The real question for people could be phrased more like this: "What do I need to do, if anything, to apply LOA deliberately so that I get what I want and not more of what I don't want".

That is what I've been helping people first to realize and then to apply in their own lives with great success.

There are thousands of books, websites, coaches, audios and videos about all of this already.

Then why would ANYONE still be coming to me (or anyone else) for help.

Because they have not yet realized that they can either put their attention on what is wanted or they can unknowingly keep putting their attention on the worries, upsets, cares and woes of what they don't want and keep getting more of that.

LOA works perfectly all the time. You keep lamenting something that is wrong and you will, sure enough, keep getting more of it.

I find those who seem to think they know the most on this journey of life the most challenging ones to get to see that THEY are the ones that keep putting their own attention and emotion on unwanted things and thus getting more of it.

ok.

I could go on and on about that, however, that's not my style. My goal is to get on with it. Give people something they can do right now to get positive results.

First, realize now, right now, that YOU and ONLY YOU are the ONLY person who is now, has ever or will ever be the creator of YOUR life.

YOU GET ALL THE CREDIT FOR EVERYTHING WANTED AND UNWANTED IN YOUR LIFE!

That should be a very freeing realization because if YOU are the only person who is in charge of YOU, then YOU only have to work on YOU in order to get what you want.

Second, take a real good look at your day to day activities.

Listen folks, that is where all this creation is happening.

Yes, sitting down to meditate or going to seminars and reading books are all great, but the MAIN amount of creation for wanted and unwanted things that are happening in YOUR life is in the moment by moment thoughts, emotions and habits you are in.

Those are the things you are getting more of.

It is that simple.

I use the analogy of "the tail wagging the dog". Backwards, yes, but that is what most people are unknowingly doing.

You wait until something apparently "bad" happens and then you REACT to it.

Stop right then. Ask yourself, would I be doing this action or thinking this thought IF my life was only filled with what is wanted.

The answer is probably NO!

It can even appear that what you are doing is a "good" thing. But be aware.

For example:

You could have been meditating all last night for perfect interactions at work. You arrive at work the next morning and "all hell as broken loose".

So you decide that you are going to find an inspirational quote and send it out to all the staff because that will help everyone get along better.

Now, ask yourself, would you have sent out an inspirational quote to all the staff for them all to get along better if they were indeed getting along.

NO!

If you deliberately are creating your life and thus pre-paving and believing for the wanted you have launched out into the Universe, then if you did indeed come into work and everyone else was upset, it would NOT affect you. You would be in a different vibrational realm then all of them.

This is where allowing comes in.

If on the other hand, you do let it affect you vibrationally, then you are like all the billions of people on the planet who are wondering...

"How do I get Law of Attraction to work for me?"

The steps of applying Law of Attraction deliberately toward wanted things are simple and spelled out in my daily emails and my downloadable trainings.

Here they are again, in brief:

Ask - you simply ask for what you want without contradicting it with thoughts of lack, limitation or unworthiness.

It is Given - This is not YOUR work. The Universe always answers your vibrational requests, it matches them perfectly constantly.

Receive - Allow the good to come to you. This is where allowing comes in from the above example. You stay focused on your want and feel the feelings of already having it so that you are a vibrational match to what is wanted regardless of what is happening around you.

That's IT!!

Now, find joy. Moment by moment ways to appreciate what you already have. Desire more things that you can believe that you can have now.

Relax.

"You never get it wrong and you will never get it done."

My wish for all of you is that you deliberately create your most perfect life in each moment.

Kathy Hadley

If you want more help on how to have a great life, sign up for my free daily email coaching at
http://kathyhadleylifecoach.com

If you want some more immediate help, get my Simple Law of Attraction Kit that comes with a short e-book and audio.  I also highly recommend the Advanced Class as it contains some of the key things I use with my coaching clients.
http://joyfulsuccessstore.com/loa